Children cannot fully grasp the meaning of the word gender, let alone what it means to be a boy or a girl. Parents who become headliners while hugging their child and saying “we’re letting little Bobbi decide” are doing it much more for themselves than their child.
That last statement may be a generalization (a fancy way of saying it’s my opinion) but from what is presented today it appears to be more truth than opinion.
“We’re letting our child decide if she’s a girl or if he’s a boy” is a lot like saying you’re letting your pet decide if it’s a cat or a dog. My dog acts like a cat sometimes. Or a pig or goat or any number of animals because she’s either grunting, rubbing up against me, or eating anything in site. But no matter how she acts or how much I wish she were a unicorn, she is still a dog.
I shake my head in disgust when I see parents on the news proclaiming that their child has decided he doesn’t want to be a boy and so they’re going to allow him to make the medical decision to transition to a girl. Sometimes they make this decision before puberty, sometimes right in the middle of it, but either way the child must undergo a procedure many adults would consider extreme.
As a side note for those who don’t already know, it IS extreme. It changes who you are for the rest of your life.
What about the child who transitioned from one sex to another and then back again because… gasp… it really wasn’t so bad being a boy after all. It sure would have been nice if his mother had the intelligence to say “not while you’re a child, but if you still feel this way when you’re an adult, I will help you make that transition”. We have become a society of very stupid parents who, it seems, were never parented themselves and thus have no idea how to be a parent.
Instead they want to be their child’s best friend.
Friendship with your child is possible but it comes later in life when they have grown up, made some mistakes, and realize that being an adult has its rewards and setbacks too. Surprisingly, adults have gone through childhood so usually have some insight. The fact any parent wouldn’t have the brains to realize their child doesn’t have the ability to make life changing choices is beyond comprehension.
Are these parents going to ask their child what career mommy and daddy should investigate since they hate their jobs so much? This is a trick question; do you know why?
Recently there was a blurb on the news that said a child had created a dating website for transgender children. In order to do this, the parents had to not only give permission but probably help create the site or hire someone to do it. This is not empowerment of their child, this is parental greed for attention; greed for whatever money might come their way from endorsements or writing a book. They are joining a special club where their child is uniquely different from all the other children who are uniquely different.
I say this because there aren’t a lot of parents of non-transgender children who would allow them to create a dating website because their child is too young to date. Think about it for a minute. What would possess you to think to yourself “why don’t I let my child create a specialized dating website so they can hook up with other kids”? There aren’t a lot of parents who want their child to hook up with anyone, especially from the internet.
The transgender child’s parents must not realize that dating websites are full of nasty people, some of them stalkers, who lunge at the opportunity to hook up with others who are unsuspecting and truly believe an honest relationship will form from a first date. I say they must not realize it because it’s hard to imagine them being okay with such a thing.
Now, lets look at the nasty perverts perusing websites looking for unsuspecting children and they come across a child’s transgender dating website. This is a bad blending of two worlds and someone is going to get hurt. It’s okay though, I’m sure mom and dad thought of everything and will interview all daters on the site to make sure there are legit.
So, are these parents going to ask their child what career mommy and daddy should investigate since they hate their jobs so much?
Did you figure out why this is a trick question? If you’re children know how much you hate your job, you are giving them too much information. Stressful, incomprehensible information. They shouldn’t know how much the mortgage is or how close you are to losing the house. They shouldn’t know why you had to sell your favorite guitar or grandma’s jewelry.
If you worship the innocence of children, do not add unnecessary stress into their lives. Do not cause chaos and disorder by putting your own worries into their small heads. Do not confuse them more by saying they might not be a boy or a girl. Do not tell them they can go through the horrendous process of taking drugs and all will be solved.
No matter who you are, no matter your age, there will be challenges along the way. It’s hard enough as an adult to wrap your head around changing genders. To a child, when given this enormous option, there is no way for them to truly understand that it will be a forever decision because they cannot fathom what ‘forever’ means.
Parents, let them grow up naturally and do not pigeon hole them into something you want them to be with the premise it’s what they want.
Don’t make their decisions your trophy.
This post was originally seen on Alexandria (aleksandreia.com).
